What is EFT?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a form of therapy focused on adult relationships where the therapist and patients examine relationship patterns and create a plan to form a more secure bond. EFT is oftentimes used for couples or families in distress that need to achieve a healthier relationship with each other. This form of therapy can improve relationships and reduce individual symptoms of mental health issues such as depression or trauma. EFT is also sometimes used to treat issues such as anxiety, eating disorders, borderline personality, and childhood abuse/neglect. 

Many people come to therapy after unsuccessful attempts at controlling their emotions. For some, avoidance is common due to the anxiety it causes. TMH offers a non-judgemental safe space for you to reflect and understand your emotions. During therapy at TMH, a therapist will observe the dynamic between patients and help redirect conversations to feelings you may not have realized you had. They will help you productively express these emotions, teaching you how to better understand each other's feelings and connect rather than hurt each other. This is a short-term form of therapy that focuses on making changes in the present moment. Through EFT treatment at TMH, you will learn how to see your emotions as valuable information rather than painful thoughts. We can help you change negative cycles of interaction and learn how to better communicate your emotions to yourself and others.

Three Phases of EFT: 

  • De-escalate negative interaction cycles

    • Identify conflict 

    • Identify cycle 

    • Access unacknowledged emotions 

    • Reframe 

  • Restructure interactions 

    • Identification of needs 

    • Partner acceptance 

    • Expression of needs and wants

  • Understanding negative patterns and how to change them into productive conversations

    • New solutions 

    • Consolidation 

Common issues include: 

  • Loss of trust 

  • Anxiety

  • Sense of betrayal 

  • Anger 

  • Fear 

  • Coping with illness of a child